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Why Happy Couples Post Less On Social Media

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Once upon a time, you would use an AIM profile shout-out to cement your adolescent connection. The comfort we find in being able to categorically classify our relationships—something that may frequently seem so ambiguous and be articulated poorly—is evident in the age of selfies and “Facebook official” status updates. It is getting more and more popular these days to publish about your relationship (and life) on social media. You have no proof that it happened if it’s not on the internet.

If you consider social media to be the contemporary version of a town square, where announcements are posted, information is shared, and communities come together over common experiences, then it makes sense that you would want to share the moments in your life that you feel are important to record. Posting the highlight reel is the goal. There is nothing wrong with the idea of sharing the aspects of our lives that people who aren’t close to us would otherwise be unable to see.

However, social media adds another level of complexity because it is a reflection of our identity, connections, and self-worth rather than merely a complement to them. We can piece together a picture of who we are, measure the love and attention we receive from others, and eventually start to compare and assess our social status. As identity, connection, and inherent value are all struggles that are firmly ingrained in the human condition, it should come as no surprise that we become addicted to the high that comes from all the clicks and pixels on social media.

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Look no further than the trends in their social media feeds to see how someone wants the world to perceive them. When it comes to their closest connections, this is never more true (or fascinating, to be honest). Being open and proud of the person you’re dating is natural and even beneficial, but there’s also a direct correlation between how often you write about your relationship and how happy you are in it. These are a couple of the causes.

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You Can Make Yourself Feel Better About A Part Of Your Life Simply By Thinking That Other People See It Differently

Put another way, we look for a “high” somewhere else if it’s not coming from the areas of our lives that we believe should be responsible for our emotional fulfillment. This usually stems from our perception of how we believe others view the circumstances. By subtly changing our perspective, we can make ourselves believe that other people find our relationships happy, which makes us feel better about them.

When You’re Happy With Your Life (Or A Relationship) You’re Naturally More Present For It

You don’t think as much about taking pictures or viewing your social media accounts. Why would you want to be sidetracked by something that is making you so happy in life, even if you don’t do those things?

Any Couple That Keeps Their Intimate Arguments Or Struggles Offline Is Always Better Off

Posting publicly about things you’re not delighted about is the opposite of oversharing. However, regardless of the situation, problems have never been solved well after someone exposed their personal life to all of their Facebook friends and family.

Their Relationship Validates Them, So They Don’t Need To Seek That Feeling Externally

Put differently, there doesn’t seem to be much interest in sharing relationship updates regularly. They find happiness in being together rather than in sharing pictures of each other.

They Don’t Have Anything To Prove

They are not taking advantage of one another to show the outside world how happy, lovely, worthy, and attractive they are. Rather than because their ingrained problems demand it, they are together because they want to be.

Research Shows That People Who Use Social Media Less Are Generally Happier Overall

After giving up Facebook for a week, some claim to be very happy. Social comparison theory has connected excessive usage of social media with depression. A lack of mental health is also frequently linked to heavy social media use. It goes on and on. The idea is that we shouldn’t be too fond of the beast’s nature, either emotionally or psychologically. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that it would affect our interpersonal connections as well.

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